This letter is written in response to Kevin Maher’s article in this Monday’s Times2. You can read Kevin’s article here.
Dear Kevin,
Ah, marathon season. Always fun, no? As someone who lives with a marathon addict, I can sympathise with the endless drag of people asking for donations. I do think, however, that if you tried things on the other side, you’d feel a little differently. The endless emails and letters you send out, organising raffles and buffet dinners and other events to try and create a sense of fair exchange, and, worst of all, the fruitless chasing of sponsors who have promised you a fiver and yet, somehow, never get round to putting it in the post. My personal favourite was one individual who suggested that he would support my mother if she supported him. The idea that it would be a good idea for both of us to sponsor each other for exactly the same amount was an act in redundancy that I simply couldn’t shake. And yet, your attack on individuals who use physical activity as a means of raising money for charity, and who seek help from those around them, struck me as a little more than a little bit unfair.
Those who run marathons, or do triathlons, or fun runs, or swim the channel, usually divide into two categories. There are the midlife crisis-sufferers to which you allude; vapid, self-obsessed individuals who . But this group is, by far, outweighed by the other group. Men and women who get up at six o’clock on a November morning to get in their eight mile training run before dropping the kids off at school. Most people who run marathons don’t do it for the glory. They do it because the charity they are running for- be it cancer, dementia, mental health, or any of the other countless charities who gain massive boosts from this kind of fundraising every year- means something to them. They’ve lost parents, or friends, or children, or lovers. They’ve suffered themselves. They want to do something good, to make the world maybe a little bit better. And if they become a bit fitter, lose a little bit of weight, and get to feel good about themselves, well, that’s fair, right?
Training for a marathon isn’t glamorous. You have to deal with blisters, pulled muscles, grazed knees. You get up and run, or cycle, or whatever in the pouring rain, in sleet and snow and endless, dripping fog. You deal with ice baths. Most people who run marathons can’t afford they;’re own personal trainers, or nutritionists and they do their practice runs in local parks and along the edge of B roads, dodging out of the way of oncoming cyclists and cars.
The other runners, the ones who do it for the glory, are what most of us call ‘Fair weather runners.’ They’re the same group you see in the first few weeks of January, in box fresh shoes and head-to-toe matching gear. ‘Real’ runners tend to use the expression ‘All the gear, no idea’ to dismiss this lot.
Your article targets, quite reasonably, these runners. The ones who pop up out of the past with open arms, provided that you fill said arms with your hard-earned cash. I would argue that it is indicative of the company you keep. Or rather, kept. We all have people in our pasts who exist solely to interrupt our regular lives with requests for money, or support, etc. I suggest that, if you genuinely haven’t spoken to these people in five years, then just ignore them.
Why do runners ask others to support their charity work? Because one person could maybe raise £100 for their chosen charity on their own. But if they ask thirty of their friends, or a hundred of their friends’ friends, they could raise £3000. If I were running a marathon for charity, I could maybe afford to give £50 out of my own pocket (unemployed graduate here). If everyone on my friends list on facebook gave me £5, I’d raise over two grand. Do I really, then, need to explain the difference between funding a charity run yourself, and asking for a little help from your friends?
And as for all this oneupmanship you mentioned. Well. Might I suggest the traditional pissing contest would be a more effective means of competition with your fellow downers?
Sincerely,
Freddie
PS If you did want to donate to someone who’s run thirteen marathons in the last ten years, trained in all weathers, and raised of £19k for the Alzheimer’s Society, have a look at my Mum’s Just Giving page… https://www.justgiving.com/Hazel-Rochez/